In Moscow on the other hand, if you try such a maneuver then your date will likely think you’re a cheapskate. Feminism is something Russian women tend to leave at home when they go to a grocery store.
Give her a smile and tell her you are happy to see her even if it is already getting dark and you are freezing. For centuries Russian men have been trying to figure out what a woman means when she says this.
Does it actually mean she is okay and there is nothing to worry about?
Or is it a hint meaning you’d better get some chocolate and roses?
And speaking of entering and exiting: while proper etiquette dictates that the woman is the one who is supposed to go first, there is one exception – the elevator. This is probably so that in the unlikely case that there is no elevator, the female will remain safe. Russian women are allowed to be late for any meeting or event – it’s practically a law.
If your date is 10-15 minutes late, take it easy – she is more or less right on time according to local standards. They can be understandable –she was stuck in traffic or had to work late; not-so-understandable – she simply could not decide if a certain pair of shoes went with a particular dress; or just plain ridiculous – she arrived on time, but spent 20 minutes hanging out just around the corner so that she wouldn’t seem too clingy.
After all her mother told her that any girl who knows her worth never arrives on time.
Keep in mind that trying to find out what really happened is useless and might even be seen as rude.
If you really want to unravel the mystery that is a Russian woman, you should probably skip this survival guide entirely and read some Tolstoy and Dostoevsky.
Still, since Russian authors were never known for their brevity, sending you off to a library before your first date with Natasha or Tatiana or Olga would simply be inhumane on our part.
So, here are a couple of essential rules you’ll want to follow if you want to get a second date. If you’re addressing a Russian woman you don’t know in Russian, there is only one appropriate term for it and it is “devushka,” which means “young woman.” And yes, even if the woman in question is in her late fifties, she would still be a “devushka.” Any other form of address would not just upset her, but could also be seen as an insult. In Russia, a woman expects you to pick up the bill on dates even when she is technically the one that invited you and even if you ordered a cup of coffee while she enjoyed a five-course meal with dessert.
Yes, in Paris or New York, people tend to go halfsies on a bill.