QUIZ: Are You Accidentally Destroying Your Love Life?You begin interacting with the thoughts in your head rather than with the person in front of you.
Maybe you hang out a few more times, but then something changes. Here is why this situation is so confusing for most women.
Either you notice that he starts to pull away and seems less engaged (commonly known as “the fade away”), or he just vanishes (a phenomenon known as “ghosting”). When a girl loses interest in a guy after a few dates, she can usually pinpoint the reason.
Maybe he was too desperate, not intellectually stimulating, too quiet, too loud, too boring, too boisterous–she usually knows exactly what it is that turned her off and can give a reason as to why she doesn’t want to continue dating him if asked. A guy can go on a few amazing dates with a girl and find himself suddenly and inexplicably put off by her.
Whereas he was previously texting her throughout the day and feeling a strong desire to see her…he now has no desire to contact her whatsoever.
This can be as baffling for guys as it is for girls.
When asked, many guys will say they don’t know why they were suddenly turned off…they just were. Is it really out of the blue without cause or provocation? The reason it’s so hard to pinpoint and articulate is because it’s extremely subtle.During the first few dates with a new guy, your vibe is typically pretty laid-back and easygoing.You want to explore the possibilities with him and see what he’s all about.It starts out light and fun, it’s about connecting and enjoying each other’s company.After a few great dates with a seemingly great guy, most women can’t help but get excited about the possibilities.They think of where the relationship might go and they start to invest in a fantasy future. You become attached to this fantasy future and then you can’t help but stress over it and worry about losing it (even though it’s not something you ever really had! Then your fears and insecurities rise to the surface and seep into your interactions with him.