But when you consider we’re including dudes who send out messages such as: a baseline reply rate of 22% is looking pretty darn great.(All those were actual first messages, by the way.) Now, our graph clearly shows that in raw terms, it helps guys to write longer messages.But when we factor in the , shorter is actually better.
If we include 5 minutes of forethought, we find that the actual ideal first message length is 200 characters, or 1 minute’s worth of typing for the average writer. Something we learned building Spark Notes, in our pre-Ok Cupid days.
If you’re the kind of person who spends a little more time reading a profile and thinking about your message, say, 10 minutes, then the optimal length goes up a few words (to 270 characters), but, still, For women, the most efficient message is even shorter.
The shortest messages get almost the best absolute response rate, and the reply rate actually goes down as messages approach extreme length.
That's the thesis of this list, and something I genuinely believe.
People have become increasingly accepting of communication almost exclusively via text message, even during the early stages of courtship. I'm 30 years old and occasionally talk like I'm three times that. I always fancied myself something of a text message seduction savant, and, although I now have a girlfriend, thus obviating the need to carefully craft woo-pitching texts... So here are 11 punctuation marks (or collections of marks) that can significantly assist you in your text-based flirtation.
Let's call it part of my charm and move on.) Texting (and BBMing, and Twitter DMing, etc.) removes the vocal cues we used to use to over-analyze if someone was into us.
Even on a lively site like Ok Cupid, only about a third (32%) of first messages get any response. In the next several posts here on Ok Trends, we’ll be taking a closer look at messaging and finding some ways to improve your own message response rate. The idea is that this is the ultimate goal of the first message: to start a conversation with someone.
Let’s start with this chart: The y-axis is reply percentage; the x-axis is message length, in characters; and the two lines are as follows. Green is the ratio of messages that get a reply that in turn gets replied to by the original sender.
At least in terms of using your time efficiently, your messages should be much shorter.
Almost 16% of first messages are over 2000 characters (roughly 400 words), and the average is 743!
Messages sent by guys are, overall, only about half as likely to get replies as similar messages from women.